Aamir khan!! Whatever he does, does it different .. Taare Jameen Par, 3-Idiots .. wow man!! What a show!! .. I would have been disappointed, If he had hosted a show like KBC or had become judge of Indian Idol. Shows like these do not match the image and personality of Aamir Khan. Aamir, I salute you for this dareness and great initiative ..Yes, its true .. similar to many people, I also cried while watching this show. (I saw this show at 10 PM on start tv. On Sunday 11 AM, I was, and will remain in college till August :) )
This post is not concentrated on issue of female foeticide only, rather many things I have seen/analyzed in last several years. This is totally my personal view, and does not intend to hurt anybody, but in case, it hurts somebody, my apologies.
I knew about the issue .. many educated people know about it, but the way it was presented touched my heart. There was nothing new as such .. People hear about similar stories everyday in news .. What is the single biggest reason for all these inhuman negative happenings around the world? The biggest problem is "materialism". I have done enough research, watched 100s of videos, listened to many people, talked to all levels of people, from nothing to powerful persons, uneducated to highly educated people, but everybody is addicted to this "materialism"
What is the issue? Mostly husbands and their family does this heinous act. Do these husbands and their family not have their sister/daughter? Heard one mother-in-law kicking her grand daughter so that she is killed? It would have been better, If somehow Aamir could talk to those husbands and in-laws that "Tell me honestly, why did you do this?" Why somebody wanted to kill their own blood relation? That lady might be thinking about future, that if girl comes, we will raise her, and then she will go to other family, and for that also, we have to struggle so much and pay huge dowry, hence in place of going through so much problem later, remove the root of the problem now itself. I can not agree that, All those "criminals" are really that bad in other aspects of life. They got threatened by the future .. What would have happened, If you could not have managed to get nice cloths, education, and husband for that girl in future? Actually people fear from future .. Oh My God .. how will I do this?.. Did you know that 100s people die everyday in India in Road accidents and Suicides? http://ncrb.nic.in/ADSI2010/ADSI2010-full-report.pdf And once life is over, there is no pain, no debt, no second life. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_rdYiLAz38 There are many people in world who does not have single rupee balance after their dinner (May be something thrown in dustbins?). http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MNr4tgTEOMs In fact one well educated person is living life pennyless (I do not endorse or support his way of life though) and write about their life from public library https://sites.google.com/site/livingwithoutmoney/ and http://www.zerocurrency.blogspot.in/ ..
Its all about how much we really need and how much we want. I heard Mukesh Ambani spent 1 Billion dollar on his home in Mumbai and they are not shifting in that house because of some vaastu problem. (http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2053231/Worlds-expensive-house-Antilia-Mumbai-lies-abandoned.html) and in same Mumbai lacs of people do not have shelter .. The problem is having good house (decorated by famous interior designer and boasting about this in front of friends and relatives), good car, spending crores of rupees in Marriages has become so important that people die for these every moment. One of my friend said to me, "I never ever wear unbranded clothes, Will use only woodland/reebock/nike (etc) shoes, and yes I work hard for these" .Great, I am not a pure socialist, but do not endorse Capitalism in current form (Whatever I understand about socialism and capitalism) i.e I do not say Mukesh ambaani to not make 27-story building for 5-6 family members nor I say do not spend money in marriages and in place of this divide the money equally to every body in the world so that no body dies out of hunger, frustration and depression. No!! that will not work out, in that case competition is gone, and people will become lethargic, What I am saying is "Having only Mercedes car" should not become motto of life and "can do anything for that thing" attitude.
Everybody is obsessed with "log kya kahenge i.e what others will say" and this RAT race is going on in dangerous speed. One of my friend had said to me in school days "If I could not get food for my family by right means, I will opt for wrong means and snatch food from others", What he really meant is, its no harm to do bad things (Which society at large believes is bad), as he is doing for his family. But tell me why does IAS couple Arvind and Teenu Joshi were involved in corruption ? http://news.rediff.com/report/2010/feb/05/mp-govt-suspends-ias-couple-for-it-raids.htm I am sure an IAS gets enough salary to lead a decent life, then why did he wanted to earn crores of rupees? Just because he was pure materialistic. He felt happy in big bunglaw, kids studying abroad..
In India, there is no concept of government sponsored social security (absolute no). In US, there are many government run kids orphanage, old age homes, efficient police, medical facility, Social security after a job loss etc.. Again American way is not the way, in which world can get better, there are many personal problems in USA (as far as I know from internet and news, like kids shooting in schools, high rate of divorce etc..), But there are strict rules for everything and life is much simpler, In fact I feel that life is much simpler in Bangalore compared to my home town Purnia).
Aamir khan and Amitabh bachhan are not ideal, even they have several known personal life issues, But we should try to see positive things. Lets think about Mahatma Gandhi. There are many who criticizes him, but his idea of "Non-violence" is so powerful that it can change the world if followed. Having said that, non-violence will not work with those hardcore ruthless terrorists, who do not understand the language of peace. We all witnessed the huge people support for Anna Hazaare, for his idea of "corruption free India", May be in future people will criticize him, but his idea can never die.
The only solution to these problems are "Spread Unconditional Love", Yes the same words I am saying since 10 years now, which is my twitter page background image, is my Tagline in all social networking sites, Blogs, website (ashishkumarjha.com). Words may be different in the solution suggested by anybody but main theme boils down to "Live life for others, Have your needs bare minimum, Do the work as hard as you can, Stretch yourself beyond comfortable zone, and do not expect equal help in return of what you did for others, Do not lie, Be good human being etc..".
In one TV show, anchor asked the guest "Why there is so many divorces in West and now catching up in India?" The reply was so touching. He said "In India, earlier we used to tell our wife, Ardhangini, i.e half part of body, and If some disease happens to our body, we do not throw away that part of the body, right? Hence If one really believes in "Ardhangini" concept, then whatever may be the qualities, one needs to accept other, and that was the reason, there was less divorce, Now a days, people do not love others, but love themselves that too materialistic love .. I want this, I want that.. I wanted you to behave this way, I want you to earn more money, I want you to make better food.."
You see all these Nirmal/SatyaSai/Nityananda babas boasting about their extraordinary powers? They are exploiting on the fear of humans. I am 100% sure, no BABA (and for that matter, no Paadri or Maulana or anybody) has any eternal power (May be some sort of yoga make them stronger eye contacts, or they can stay without food for months, but nothing that special, that no one else can do).
I have seen and observed about few Doctors (Mind you, there are few doctors like these) in last few years, that even though they understand life can end at any moment, and its just biological entity having billions of neurons which control our thinking and behavior, they are materialistic and just to get some money give unnecessary prescription for various tests, try to let them admit into hospital etc... In fact my brother said that in small town Purnia, there are many rackets of people who stands near railway station, bus stand, and persuade patients to go to a particular doctor, and in turn that doctor gives these "Health brokers" money. What these doctors do they write so many tests and recommend to go particular pathology for tests, and they write the medicines from a particular company and also recommend to buy medicines from a particular medical shop and many have their own medical shops. I have seen, doctor change the medicine, If the nurse standing near to doctor says, that this medicine is not available in "our medical shop". They too are exploiting "The biggest truth and fear of human kind i.e death".
Naxals kidnapped Sukna collector Alex paul menon, and media made so much hue and cry, but there was almost no coverage of two body guards who died while performing their duties, and when Alex paul were freed by Naxals, people were bursting crackers? that was height of insensitivity. He must have first visited the body guard's family for consoling them. God forbid, even if one IAS dies, his family will get the job and pension, but families of guards may die out of hunger.. No support system for poor or powerless .. Why can't army/police combined can give a deadline to Naxals for 30 days and say "Remove all your arms and join mainstream, otherwise, after 30 days, If you killed even one person, We will bombard and kill you all." and do strategic attacks if required. Look, I personally do not like force to be used, but the problem is they are killing innocent people, that should be intolerable.
One last thing, We do talk about patriotism, If I talk against Pakistan then I am patriot? Then what is wrong in telling "Raj Thakrey a Patriot", He is very well patriotic about his state. I ask, who has created these boundaries, humans right? What if few of our states make another nation XYZ, should we start hating them?. Borders of any level is just for better management. Our old civilization says "Vasudhaiv kutumbakam i.e Whole world is a family". Having said that, my analogy would be like "I work for team A, hence I should do my best for team A, and If there is positive competition between teams for better performance, I must stretch myself for better result for my team, this does not mean, If team B needs some favor, which will not harm my team, I should not do it." Hence what will work out is, We do our best for ourselves, our family, our village, our state, our country and our Planet earth, in the decreasing order of priority, because there are others more responsible for their family, their village, their state, their country, but we all are equally responsible for Humanity. Yes, I am proud that, I am from Village Bhatotar, I am proud that I am from district Purnia, I am proud that, I belong to state Bihar, and I am proud to be Indian. If I will have to choose (only one option for life time) from Bihar and Karnataka, I will choose Bihar, If between India and USA, I will choose India, because I was born here, I have got some duties for here.